Most Sexy

Am I just overly sexual and horny? Probably but I think not, what’s wrong with wanting more?

Of course I assume all of you reading this have tried to make advances on your own, talk to your partner about intimacy issues, and unfortunately failed.

Well it’s a hard topic for a lot of people I have read blog posts upon blog posts. Done as much research as I can because let me tell you there is not that much. Most of the research I come across will say that they aren’t satisfied with the way they have sex with their partner. Or that they have secret hidden fantasies they are afraid to share with their partner. Or that they are not attracted to you anymore. Well wow way to make anyone feel good right?

First and for most my advice is if you are struggling with not having sex with your partner, and have been for awhile, and they aren’t open to talking or fixing the problem, don’t struggle. Leave them if they have nothing else worthwhile in your relationship. Because what’s the point of trying to keep fixing something if your the only one trying to fix it. Well if you have a good relationship besides sex and or genuinely care for them I have some advice for what you can do.

1- Play with yourself and leave them out of it. Be sure to leave the door open, make noises they can hear, and tell them what a good time you had after your done.

2- Change your appearance up, even if it’s just for a day. Wear a wig, dye your hair, wear something you usually wouldn’t. Of course make sure it’s something you think they would like or are into. Then when they ask why or what you are wearing, just saying oh I’m trying something different. Be sure not to tell them it’s for them.

3- Dont give a fuck what they think. Ignore them focus on yourself. Pamper yourself. Paint your nails, read a book, play music, take a walk. Go hang out with your friends. DONT FORGET YOU ARE MOST IMPORTANT.

4- Be the initiator. Pull down their pants, give them head, run your fingers on their neck and tell them you want to play. This should always work, but when dealing with someone who isn’t sexually active with you sometimes it does nothing but be the one to make the first move is important, show that YOU are in charge.

Of course be sure to give them time and talk to them if it’s been days to a week to a month. It could just be a bad time. But dealing with this on a regular basis is not fun or makes you feel good. So don’t forget that your in charge of your life, you and the first and foremost person to make yourself happy.

I feel sex in my fingers, through my fingertips. Like a small buzz, like a butterfly in your stomach, like a small vibration. The bedding feels softer, the sheets smoother, I’m sinking into the grasp of something between you and inside of you. My fingertips caress your body, on your shoulders, slowly trickling down your arms. Do you feel the beat of my heart, pumping my blood throughout my body?

The beat of my heart which sends a wave of feelings like a shock with every pulse. This pulse is hot. Making me feel hotter, with every wave. Almost with an exhaustion of every single muscle in your body, ones that you didn’t even know existed.

As my body fills with this hot pulse. I can feel myself letting go. Letting go of the present, but also being in just my body at that moment. Feeling myself completely letting go of the world around me and just being in that moment, is exciting and a relief. It’s like releasing any and all worries that you might have. Then the excitement of knowing an orgasm is on the way.

Time seems to slow down as I let myself get this hot sensation filling all of me and more so filling my vagina and then the biggest shock wave that radiates from there out to the rest of my body. This wave fills me with feelings of like I had just left my own body to come crashing back into it leaving me with a slight vibration feeling followed by complete muscle exhaustion. My legs feel weak, my arms feel flappy, I can just stand, sit, or lay there for a minute while the vibration leaves my body as I come back to reality.

Today I am writing about the different ways you can kiss, and what each kiss means to me. Plus a little tip on something I do for each one.

CHEEK KISS

Kissing on the cheek is almost just as intimate as the lips. Example: I was proud of my boyfriend and kissed him on the cheek instead of the lips because I wanted to portray that he is loved. I felt this was the right kiss for the moment because on the lips would’ve involved him kissing me as well and I wanted him to know that this kiss was all about him. A cheek kiss could also mean a friendly kiss, this would be a quick one usually. When kissing on the cheek I like to hug as well letting him know how much I care.

FOREHEAD KISS

A forehead kiss, is for when you want to show someone that you are deeply connected to their soul. A forehead kiss is an act of true love and devotional love. Giving or receiving a forehead kiss are actually one of my favorites. I take my time with this one and allow my lips to sit for a moment, letting the kiss sink in to the whole body. I imagine this kiss warms up the entire body and soul.

NECK KISS

Okay, so neck kisses are super sexy! Not only do they turn you on, they are usually given before or during intercourse. Kissing someone’s neck means you think are are hot and want them to know it too. It’s a power move as well, it’s like your saying to them feel this, I can make you feel really good. When kissing the neck I like to start towards the top below the side on the chin and make my way down kissing a few times slowly. Sometimes whispering or breathing in the ear as well for some added effect.

HAND KISS

Kissing on the hand means I got you, or thank you for having my back. When kissing someone’s hand you are portraying a believe in me feeling. You could be holding hands and give a quick kiss to show your affection, or laying in bed watching some TV and grab their hand to give a quick kiss to show them I’m here and glad you are here too, or I’m glad you are mine. When kissing the hand I like to drag my lips across the hand after the kiss.

NOSE KISS

Nose kisses can be silly, and by that I mean make it silly like when your laughing. I personally like to rub my nose against his nose (the Eskimo kiss) after or before a kiss on the lips to make the lip kiss more prominent.

LIP KISS

Finally kissing on the lips! Of course this means I love you, and want you to love me too. This could also mean, you got this, I believe in you, see you later, hello, goodbye, or just because. Kissing of the lips is the most beautiful when you stare into someone’s eyes just before and your looking at each other like your all I need in this world. When I kiss on the lips I like to stare into the eyes first to show them that you really matter to me.

Some day’s are just better than others. Unfortunately sometimes feeling good about yourself, and happy with your life isn’t an everyday feeling. But here are some tips to make you feel good when your feeling bad.

Turn on the music! Sing along or dance or just close your eyes and listen. Music has a way of taking over your mind and body. You can escape reality for awhile with just music.

Clean your space! This may seem tedious, but a clean space can help clean your mind out as well. Plus the physical activity will get you moving instead of moping around.

Check out your body! Okay of course this may sound super egotistical, but looking at yourself and saying out loud or in your head what you love about you can make you feel better. You can even think of things that you love about yourself that you do, and not just your appearance or better yet both!

Laugh! Laughter is really the best! whether this means turning on a funny movie, or calling a good friend of yours. Anything to get you to laugh will be the best medicine.

If you play an instrument, bring it out! Try to create your own composition and sing-along. It doesn’t matter what it sounds like playing music is also soothing to the soul.

Animals! If you have a dog take them for a walk. If you have a cat cuddle them and put them, or you can even just sit with your dog and pet your dog. Any animal you can just sit with and admire. Your animals love you unconditionally and usually know when your not feeling your best self, and will be even more loving.

Physical activity! Go for a run, go to the gym, have sex with your partner! Dance! Go swimming! Just get out of your bed, or off the couch, or get up from lying on the floor. Just get up and move.

Feeling down or bad about yourself really sucks, so I hope reading this may give you some kind of ambition to do something today. Remember your day is as good as YOU make it! You are in control of your life and how you feel, only you can change the way that you are thinking or feeling. Love yourself and get going!

That feeling of wholeness and a satisfying complete body mind ease, is the intimacy that we crave. I didn’t think I could grow any closer to my man during sex, and to be honest we were having very bland vanilla sex. Sex that felt good but didn’t fill my mind with euphoria. Sex I craved, but I also craved to be closer to him all the time. I just wanted to have mind blowing sex with him to the point where he would really want to just lay in my arms and have fast heavy breathing so I knew that I did something right. 

So now I’m going to tell you how the dynamic of my relationship changed from pegging. The intimacy between me and my boyfriend grew, not only in the bedroom, but also in our everyday lives. It’s like a veil had dropped that was holding both of us back from feeling complete and ourselves. It’s hard to explain such a feeling. But also the feeling of needing and wanting to be closer to my boyfriend also changed, it wasn’t a “have to get closer” feeling anymore or a “I got close and now I’m done” feeling. It’s a feeling of wholeness. My body felt whole my mind felt whole and my sexual desire felt whole.

While in the act of pegging with my boyfriend’s submission he opened up to a whole new level of emotions. With his legs open he also showed me how vulnerable he can be, and how much tender care he wants. Mind you I am the dominant one in this senecio. He will worship me during this whole process. 

Seeing my boyfriend act like a girl how he takes it, how he allows me inside and moans, how he asks for sex instead of being dominant and just going for it. All this opened up a whole new way of communicating for us. The emotional aftercare of holding him close knowing I satisfied his desires brought me new feelings of being a caretaker. Not only can I keep the house clean and happy, now I feel wanted in pleasing my mans needs in other ways.

All in all, the intimacy traveled from just the bedroom to asking more questions like “are you ok” during the day if I wasn’t feeling my best self. We have grown so much in this short period of time of just switching roles in the bedroom. I recommend this to everyone who has a need to grow closer to their partner and if both partners are open to the idea. There is so much trust involved in this process that both parties need to be very open with communication. It can be very insightful to look deep into another’s soul.

So let me start off with saying my life is forever changed in the best way. I never thought an act so simple as changing roles would impact me and my relationship so much.

Okay, so to start what is pegging? Pegging is when a female will take on the typical role of a man during sex. She will wear a strap-on and proceed to have intercourse with her man up his anus. At first to me this sounded sexy as fuck, but second I was scared as hell. Questions like;

“Will I fuck him right?”

“Am I going to meet his sexual desires?”

are of course running through my mind.
It’s worth mentioning that he brought this idea up to me. Even though secretly for some time I had always wanted to do this. He had no idea I had secretly fantasized about wearing a strap-on before. He had no idea that I had also secretly fantasized about being a domme in the bedroom.

All this fantasizing though was just that, fantasy. I had never tried on a strap-on nor fucked a man up his anus. Plus actually being dominant in the bedroom seemed like a reach to me. I can barely be dominant in my waking life.

My man was already prepared. He had done this before, which of course made me even more nervous. As he helped me into the harness and chose what dildo he wanted to use it began. I chose a few phrases that seemed dominant to me and began eating him out and slowing fingering him. I’m immensely turned on by just this. Once I actually start to lube up the dildo I feel a twinge inside me of something I only feel when he’s inside me. I slide in and feel damp between my own legs. Four positions later my legs are shaking from me having an orgasm from just pegging him. He lays on top of me, both hugging drenched in sweat.

In short I can’t wait to do it again;

So fast forward!